Show Notes
What happens when raising an Autistic child leads you towards a whole new understanding of yourself? In this episode, I'm joined by Canadian author Julie M. Green, whose memoir Motherness explores generational autism, parenthood, and radical acceptance. We talk about Julie's journey to late identification, the often unseen demands of being an Autistic parent, and what happens when perimenopause makes the things we've spent years managing increasingly difficult. Our conversation takes us through education, nervous system regulation, the misunderstandings that can arise in everyday interactions, and the freedom of allowing family life to look different. It's an honest, thoughtful, and sometimes funny conversation about parenting, identity, self-understanding, and the compassion that becomes possible when we begin to see ourselves differently. A little love from FREE RANGE 💗 This episode is brought to you in association with FREE RANGE, my range of products celebrating individuality, self-expression and doing life differently. Our first collection of organic cotton tees features playful words, pops of neon and a little reminder that we're not here for normal! Explore the collection at https://christinedoyle.ie/free-range and enjoy 10% off with code unlearning10. About Julie M. Green Julie M. Green is a Canadian author whose memoir, Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance, was named a #1 Amazon Bestseller in disability memoir, an Audible Best Audiobook of 2025, and a finalist for the Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Award. Her writing has appeared in The Washington Post, The Globe and Mail, and other publications. She also writes about parenting and neurodiversity at The Autistic Mom. Find Julie and her work: Motherness: https://ecwpress.com/products/motherness
The Autistic Mom: https://theautisticmom.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliem.green
Website: https://juliemgreen.ca/
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