Show Notes
Today we're diving in deep to some of the psychological dynamics of 12 step ideology with Kylee. Kylee shares about what it was like to be in AA as an undiagnosed autistic woman, what leaving was like, and how harm reduction has been a game changer for her.
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 04:00 12 Step Comment Sections 10:00 Getting 12 Stepped 14:37 Late Diagnosed Autism 16:26 First Crack in AA Brainwashing 28:02 What Led to Leaving 12 Step? 34:01 IOP + Harm Reduction 36:35 Seeing AA Ideology +Culture As Harmful 42:54 AA's Anti Self, Autism + MAT 51:16 Burning Out on 12 Step 59:28 AA is its Own Religion 60:46 AA Religion Treats Narcissism? 1:09:14 Harm Reduction 1:18:09 Take What You Want, Leave The Rest? 1:25:10 What Is Recovery?
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