How Do You Cope?

Suzi Ruffell: ‘It's never too late to come out’

How Do You Cope?

Show Notes

How do you learn to accept yourself after years of trying to be someone else?

In today’s episode, John is joined by comedian, writer and podcaster Suzi Ruffell.

Suzi opens up about how childhood anxiety shaped her early life, from intrusive thoughts and compulsive checking, to the fear of losing loved ones. She reflects on how these anxieties have evolved in the age of social media, and why she feels truly peaceful and present when performing on-stage.

Suzi also explores her experience of coming out, navigating self-acceptance and why giving a platform to queer stories is so important in today’s ever-changing world.

Suzi’s book Am I Having Fun Now? Is available now.

On Thursday in our bonus episode The Gratitude List, Suzi shares the things that she is currently grateful for.

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