Show Notes
Getting older comes with a lot of gifts, and one of the best ones is realizing just how many things you used to stress about that genuinely don't matter anymore. This episode is a direct follow-up to last week's on confidence and being alone, and it's a little different than usual...no script, no notes, just me riffing on the 15 things I've intentionally stopped caring about that have made my life SO much happier.
Topics covered: 👉🏻 The cardinal rule I now have about whose opinions are even allowed in my head 👉🏻 Why I stopped fearing being single, and what actually changed my mind 👉🏻 Why hustle culture and looking busy stopped being things I care about at all 👉🏻 Why quality over quantity applies to friendships just as much as everything else 👉🏻 Why I let go of having the "perfect" routine and what I built instead
Referenced in this episode: 👉🏻 Episode 175, How to Be More Confident Being Alone — https://youtu.be/jSORRO2r-4w 👉🏻 My book, Own Your Career — https://go.shopmy.us/p-47074262 👉🏻 Episode 172, Your Job is Not Your Identity — https://youtu.be/gDqWkytF77o
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TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — Why realizing what doesn't matter is one of the best parts of getting older 04:00 — Why I stopped caring what anyone else thinks of me 08:00 — Why I stopped caring about being single 13:00 — Why turning 30 isn't the deadline everyone thinks it is 15:00 — Why I no longer care about looking busy 18:00 — Why I'd rather have a few close friends than a big friend group 27:00 — The "art of doing nothing" and how I'm optimizing for joy over productivity 32:00 — Why I let go of having the "perfect" routine 34:00 — Why I stopped buying into hustle culture 40:00 — Why I stopped trying to make my life look impressive to other people
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