80% of Deaths By Suicide Are Men. What Can We Do? | Dr. Alexandria Coursol
Chris Stefanick Catholic ShowShow Notes
80% of deaths by suicide in the U.S. are men. Men account for over 90% of the prison population, and 149 of the last 155 mass shootings were carried out by men alone. But men are nearly half as likely as women to seek mental health treatment. So what's going on?
There's a male mental health collapse happening right now. What can we actually do about it?
In this important episode of the Chris Stefanick Show, I sit down with Dr. Alexandria Coursol, a psychologist who wrote her doctoral dissertation on masculinity, to unpack the roots of this crisis—and more importantly, a way forward.
We discuss the concept of "feminine privilege" (it's not what you think), why the patriarchy actually harmed men, how society trained men to suppress emotion and externalize their pain, and why Jesus might be the greatest model of healthy masculinity who ever lived.
Whether you're raising sons, loving a husband, or sitting in the struggle yourself, don't miss this conversation.
HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 – The stat that should stop everyone cold: 80% of suicides are men 03:28 – Meet Dr. Alexandria Coursol + her own journey of letting go and trusting God in relationships 11:22 – How bad is the male mental health crisis? The data is worse than you think 27:32 – "Feminine privilege": the unearned advantage that reveals what men are missing 44:00 – Why the feminist movement left men with an identity crisis 48:42 – Healthy masculinity: what it is, what it isn't, and how to teach it 01:00:01 – Practical steps for parents, clinicians, and men ready to do the work
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