The Intimacy Inquiry

Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle

The Intimacy Inquiry

Show Notes

Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle In this episode, we dive deep into sexuality, intimacy, and diverse relationships with Gigi Engle, a renowned sex and relationship psychotherapist. Starting with Gigi's formative years and journey in sex education, the discussion spans various topics including the pitfalls of traditional sex education, the impact of pornography on young minds, and the importance of pleasure-based sex education. Gigi shares insights on the dynamics in kinky and polyamorous relationships, the significance of open communication, and how societal norms shape our views on intimacy. They also discuss Gigi's forthcoming book 'Kink Curious,' shedding light on its contents and its aim to guide beginners and seasoned kinksters alike. The conversation further touches on the intersectionality of gender, sexuality, and disabilities in sex therapy, and ponders the future of sexual wellness in the age of AI and virtual connections. 00:00 Introduction to Gigi Engle 01:04 Formative Years and Early Career 03:55 Sex Education and Societal Norms 05:45 Impact of Pornography on Sexuality 12:00 Redefining Sex and Pleasure 16:26 Communication and Consent in Relationships 25:46 Exploring Kink and BDSM 29:07 Insights from Writing 'Kink Curious' 30:20 Introduction to the Book 30:35 Book Structure and Content 31:58 Exploring Unique Kinks 33:01 Non-Monogamy and Polyamory 36:39 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics 41:26 Therapist's Personal Journey 49:44 AI in Sexual Wellness 53:22 Future Trends and Final Though https://www.missgigiengle.com/ https://www.missgigiengle.com/portfolio/books

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