She Persisted

253. why therapy didn’t work… until this

She Persisted

Show Notes

i spent 2.5 years in therapy, 4 hospitalizations, and multiple rounds of DBT — and nothing was working. then a psychiatrist at mclean hospital asked me one question that completely changed how i approached my mental health recovery.

in this episode, i break down the exact conversation during my residential treatment intake that shifted everything: why i'd been going through the motions, what it actually means to "see the wisdom" in treatment, and the mindset that built the foundation my mental health still sits on today.

if you've ever wondered why therapy isn't working, or you're on the fence about asking for help — this one's for you.

i talk about:

• why i needed intensive mental health treatment

• the question my doctor asked me that changed my life

• how i almost got turned away from my mental health treatment

• dbt wise mind & how that impacted my journey

• my biggest fears going into a residential mental health facility

• being vulnerable when you’re getting mental health care

• the mindset i had going into getting residential mental health care

mentioned:

• dr. blaise aguirre ep.

• mclean 3east

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