Show Notes
This is the last episode of Book One, and before you move on, it’s worth checking where you actually stand. You’ll get the questions you should be able to answer by now, and three mindsets to find yourself in: curious about your growth, sick of feeling this way, or close to giving up. Each one points to a different next step, and none of them is wrong. You’ll also hear what Books Two and Three cover, so you know what you’re signing up for. 👉 New here? Find your stuck state, and your starting place: https://www.stucknotbroken.com/stuck Or go straight to what's best for you: 👉Start free in the community: https://www.stucknotbroken.com/join?invitation_token=25c72b8c15987838a4a6bcc54b1bd652d520420c-d23357d7-4381-4003-be61-c1f4f0bb538d 📘 Prefer to read, or want to support the show?: https://www.stucknotbroken.com/books 🎧Practice on your own, free, no account, no card: https://app.stucknotbroken.com/?start=practice&src=podcast 👥Prefer company? Move through it alongside others in the Unstucking Academy. $39/month, cancel anytime: https://www.stucknotbroken.com/unstuckingacademy 😊 About the Host: Justin Sunseri is a therapist and coach committed to helping you live with calm, confidence, and connection without psychobabble or woo-woo. Justin is the author of the Stuck Not Broken book series, a member of the Polyvagal Institute's Editorial Board, a father of two, and a husband. ✅ Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 988 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for an emergency
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