Show Notes
It’s the elephant in the room that no-one talks about when you have cancer - the fact that your sex life can also take a nose dive. But there is support out there, and this episode I’m speaking to Instagram’s @cancersextherapist - aka Zoe Yessian - a registered Mental Health nurse and psychosexual and relationship therapist, who was diagnosed with breast cancer herself two years ago aged just 35. We discuss how cancer can affect our libido and desire and what we can do about it.
Show Notes
Zoe
Zoe’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecancersextherapist/ Zoe’s website - https://www.thesextherapyspace.co.uk/ If you are in London or able to get there, Zoe does bimonthly workshops at Future Dreams House - her next two are: October 14th - Dating beyond diagnosis - https://momence.com/s/141372815 October 28th - Navigating Sex and relationships after cancer - https://momence.com/s/141372820
Her next Breast Cancer Now workshop on intimacy and sex is at the Younger Women together day on 17th October - https://signup.breastcancernow.org/event/1ca854b5-a878-40ed-8640-de0c70d28994/2a3f4f45-f248-437a-a2d6-faa29474a78d?count=3
More information about sex and cancer
Future Dreams - https://futuredreams.org.uk/category/sex-intimacy-hub/ Shine cancer support - https://shinecancersupport.org/resource/sex-blog-1/ Macmillan - https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/impacts-of-cancer/sex-and-cancer Breast Cancer Now - https://www.survivingbreastcancer.org/breast-cancer-and-sexual-intimac Cancer Research - https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/coping/physically/sex/effects Find a therapist - College of Sex and Relationship Therapists - https://www.cosrt.org.uk/
Sex toys & tools -
O-Nut / dilators -https://www.stressnomore.co.uk/collections/the-pelvic-people Liz’s favourite lube - https://www.yesyesyes.org/collections/yes-lubricants
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