Parenting With Psychology

5 Ways to Respond to Toddler Hitting (Which One Works Best?)

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Why toddlers hit is one of the most common questions I get from parents — and the most common responses parents reach for are actually reinforcing the very behavior they're trying to stop. This video breaks down the five responses most parents use when their toddler hits, which ones are making things worse, and the one that actually works.

Toddler aggression is a normal part of development — but normal doesn't mean you ignore it. Understanding why toddlers hit is the first step. Responding in the right way is what determines whether it keeps happening.

Research on child development confirms that toddlers in the sensorimotor stage (birth through age 2) learn primarily through immediate physical cause and effect — not through reasoning or delayed consequences (Piaget, 1952). That changes everything about how you respond.

In this episode: → The 5 ways parents respond when their toddler hits — and which ones backfire → Why your toddler may be hitting more after you try to stop it → The developmental reason behind toddler hitting that most parents don't know → The one response that works with your toddler's brain, not against it → Exactly what to say in the 3 seconds after the hit lands

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