Show Notes
You can be inches from the life you want—and still find a way to pull yourself backward.
AJ and Johnny sit down with clinical neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho to uncover why self-sabotage appears in careers, health goals, relationships, and everyday habits. They explore the hidden fears, beliefs, and cognitive distortions that make change feel threatening, including black-and-white thinking, catastrophizing, comparison, low self-concept, and the excessive need for control.
You’ll learn how to recognize your triggers, question the stories your mind creates, separate thoughts from facts, and replace destructive patterns with practical “if-then” plans. Judy also explains why willpower alone isn’t enough—and how aligning your goals with your values can create motivation that lasts when discipline fades.
Chapters
00:00 – Why we sabotage the goals we want 04:45 – The problem with New Year’s resolutions 08:00 – How fear activates self-defeating behavior 12:30 – The four LIFE drivers of self-sabotage 19:15 – Recognizing cognitive distortions 24:40 – How to question and change destructive thoughts 35:30 – Stop treating every thought like a fact 41:00 – Rebuilding habits with the ABC framework 44:20 – Turn obstacles into practical if-then plans 51:10 – Why values create lasting motivation 55:25 – Build your personal blueprint for change 58:05 – How self-sabotage damages relationships 01:03:10 – A daily exercise for catching negative thoughts
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