181 - Real Talk on Feeling Lost, Lonely and Making Friends as an Adult with Mary Jelkovsky

Alright, we’re back! It’s been a minute, and so much has changed since we last hung out. So this is a bit of a chaotic life update.

You wont stop stress eating until you understand what we chat about on today's episode. If you feel like food secretly runs your life—constantly on your mind, overthinking every meal, battling urges even when you’re full—there’s a deeper reason for it. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you feel on edge when an urge hits—and why you still want to binge, even when you’re not hungry What’s really driving your emotional eating (and why it's not just about willpower) The brain science behind behind your fixation on food What you’re actually craving when food is always on your mind (spoiler: it’s not food) How to stop relying on food for short-term relief—and finally break free from the long-term regret If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t just stop thinking about food, this episode will give you the answers you’ve been looking for—and the tools to finally change it. ___ FREE TRAINING: Break Free from Binge & Emotional Eating!Registration OPEN - register at www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com Join me for a live, hour-long masterclass where I’ll introduce you to the N.E.U.R.O. Pathway, a coaching framework designed to help you reprogram your relationship with food through nervous system engagement and brain-based strategies. This non-clinical approach focuses on creating sustainable change and developing new habits—without the need for extreme control or restriction. In this free training, you’ll learn: How to break free from binge and emotional eating using brain-based methods Why your nervous system holds the key to overcoming urges and cravings The powerful, refreshingly effective approach to reprogramming your habits around food ______ Looking for more free tips, tools, and resources to help you improve your relationship with food, fitness and your body? Join the newsletter crew: https://jessijean.com/newsletter ______ The Food Freedom Online Program is a transformative 4-month experience designed to help women break free from the cycle of binge and emotional eating. Through a blend of brain science, habit reprogramming, nervous system regulation and compassionate coaching, you'll develop a balanced, peaceful relationship with food and your body. It’s not just about healing your relationship with food—it’s about rediscovering who you are and building a life of confidence, purpose, and freedom. You don’t have to do it alone—this program gives you the tools, community, and support to truly thrive. Opens for enrollment late Oct 2024! Join the newsletter crew for more info: jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Grab a copy of my FREE beginner-friendly At-Home JOYFUL Fitness Challenge by subscribing to my newsletter. It will be in your welcome email :) https://jessijean.com/newsletter - be sure to check your spam / promotions folders if you don't see it in your inbox. ______ Stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jessijeannn Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/jessijeannn Email: [email protected] ______

Let's cut the all-or-nothing mindset and chat about how to set fitness goals that don't mess with your head or drag you into food obsession and guilt. In today's episode, we're breaking down how to take back your fitness journey from diet culture's toxic BS and how set goals that actually make you feel empowered, not ashamed. What You'll Learn If you have appearance-related goals, how to pursue them without letting them take over your life or mess with your mental health Why your fitness goals should never be all about how you look. The four categories that actually keep you motivated and build real body respect: performance & functionality, mental & emotional well-being, consistency & sustainability, and health & longevity. How to ditch perfectionism and the all-or-nothing mentality for good ______ Grab a copy of my FREE beginner-friendly At-Home JOYFUL Fitness Challenge by subscribing to my newsletter. It will be in your welcome email :) https://jessijean.com/newsletter - be sure to check your spam / promotions folders if you don't see it in your inbox. ______ Join the newsletter crew here for more free tips, tools, and resources to help you improve your relationship with food, fitness and your body: https://jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Ready to break free from the exhausting cycle of binge and emotional eating? The Food Freedom Online Program is a transformative 4-month experience designed to help women break free from the cycle of binge and emotional eating. Through a blend of brain science, habit reprogramming, nervous system regulation and compassionate coaching, you'll develop a balanced, peaceful relationship with food and your body. It’s not just about healing your relationship with food—it’s about rediscovering who you are and building a life of confidence, purpose, and freedom. You don’t have to do it alone—this program gives you the tools, community, and support to truly thrive. Opens for enrollment late Oct 2024! Join the newsletter crew for more info: jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jessijeannn Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/jessijeannn Email: [email protected] ______

Okay, let’s get real—how many times have you tried to “love yourself” and still felt like crap about your body? 🙋‍♀️ We’ve all been there. In today’s episode, we chat about why self-love can actually feel like more of a burden sometimes and what to do instead. If self-love feels like one more thing on your to-do list (that’s NOT helping you feel better in your body), then this episode is for you. ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why self-love can sometimes make you feel worse, not better The surprising power of building a self-respect practice instead How to reconnect with your body in a way that feels authentic, not forced Why collective healing (aka, community) is SO much more powerful than going it alone If you’re ready to let go of the pressure of self-love and reconnect with your body in a way that feels real, grab your tea and let’s dive in! ______ Join the newsletter crew here for more free tips, tools, and resources to help you improve your relationship with food, fitness and your body: https://jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Ready to break free from the exhausting cycle of binge and emotional eating? The Food Freedom Online Program is a transformative 4-month experience designed to help women break free from the cycle of binge and emotional eating. Through a blend of brain science, habit reprogramming, nervous system regulation and compassionate coaching, you'll develop a balanced, peaceful relationship with food and your body. It’s not just about healing your relationship with food—it’s about rediscovering who you are and building a life of confidence, purpose, and freedom. You don’t have to do it alone—this program gives you the tools, community, and support to truly thrive. Opens for enrollment late Oct 2024! Join the newsletter crew for more info: jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jessijeannn Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/jessijeannn Email: [email protected] ______

Alright, for my high-achievers, let’s talk about why things still aren’t clicking in your relationship with food. The same strengths—discipline, routine, structure— that help you crush it in other areas might be working against you when it comes to feeling in control with food. It’s frustrating. You’re used to getting results, but with food, your diet, feeling good in your body, it feels like everything falls apart. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I figure this out?”—you’re not alone. I unpack why strong, high-achieving women often struggle with food and body image, and take it as personal failure when, in reality, you just need a different approach. Let’s get into it. ______ Join the newsletter crew here for more free tips, tools, and resources to help you improve your relationship with food, fitness and your body: https://jessijean.com/newsletter ______ Stay connected: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jessijeannn Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/jessijeannn Email: [email protected] ______