Show Notes
Today on Burnie + Besite LIVE Tara Grace and I are joined by The 13th Step film maker and OG Deprogramming Badass Monica Richardson. We discuss her The 13th Step film, harm inside AA, dissenting and the hate that can follow, tips for deprogramming AA or deprogramming 12 step in general and more. You can watch Monica's Film 13th Step Film here and here's links to Tara Grace and Monica Richardson YouTube. Monica's Deprogramming podcast is here. Timestamps: 00:00 The 13th Step in AA Intro 01:42 "I Was Never Broken" 08:11 How AA Indoctrination Happens Fast 13:06 "A Behavior Cannot Be A Disease" 26:52 How AA Can Affect Family 33:00 Why Monica Made The 13th Step Film 37:42 12 Step Hate 40:37 Advice For AA Dissenting 54:09 AA HQ Ignoring Requests For Safer AA 01:14:48 Advice For Navigating 13th Step 01:17:24 Advice For Deprogramming AA 01:26:13 Making Changes With AA 01:32:34 Deciding To Speak Out About AA Resources for deconstructing AA: 👉 Deprogram Lounge (community, Zooms, book club, Escape Kit + more) 📚 Deprogram Book List (my fave deprogram, cult recovery and critical thinking books) 🌀 Deprogram AA Course (free your mind at your own pace) Let’s get f*cking free
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