127 | You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxiety. Try This 90-Second Reset Instead! {TEENS}
Anxious Christian Teen | Anxiety Symptoms, Insecurity, Overwhelmed, Stressed, Self-Esteem, Social Anxiety, Peace in the BibleShow Notes
You cannot think your way out of anxiety. If you've ever sat in a desk before a test, running “you studied, you are fine, it is just a test” on a loop and feeling worse every single lap, this one is for you.I was the girl whose stomach rolled before state testing. Not nervous. Physically ill, on the verge of throwing up, praying nobody looked over. And I was trying so hard to reason my way to calm. It never worked, not one time, because the brain is the thing that is spinning. Asking it to fix itself is like asking the fire to put out the fire.What I didn't have at fifteen was something simple to actually do. Today I'm giving you the whole framework I teach my clients, all five steps of the PEACE Plan, start to finish, nothing held back. Five steps. Ninety seconds. Something you can run between classes, before the test, or standing in a bathroom stall.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why trying to reason with anxiety makes it louder instead of quieter All five steps of the PEACE Plan, walked in order What you are actually afraid of before a test, and it is not the questions How to pray the real thing instead of the polite version Why peace is not a feeling you wait for
Your one step this week: Do not wait until you are falling apart to try it. Run the five steps once tonight while you are calm, so your body already knows them when you actually need them.Coming Friday: Intrusive thoughts, and why having them does not mean something is wrong with you.xo, KristenFollow the show so it shows up for you every week.LET’S CONNECT! 🕊️ Free PEACE Plan Playbook: anxiouschristianteen.com/peace 🩶 Free community: anxiouschristianteen.com/community ❓ What Type of Anxious Teen Girl Are You?: anxiouschristianteen.com/quiz
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