Episode 105: How to Design a Career That Supports Your Life (Not the Other Way Around)

What do you do when you know you want something more, but you have absolutely no idea how to get there? For successful professionals, one of the hardest parts of starting something new is suddenly finding ourselves in unfamiliar territory. We're used to being competent, prepared, and knowing what comes next. But when you're changing careers, building a business, writing a book, or pursuing a long-held ambition, there may not be a clear roadmap to follow. And that's okay. In Episode 135 of Tales from The Lane, we're exploring how to make meaningful progress when you don't have all the answers, and why your willingness to adapt may be one of your greatest strengths. I'll share why studying other people's success stories is useful but insufficient, how to find the right people to support your journey, and why taking one thoughtful step at a time can be more effective than trying to plan the entire future. You'll also hear about a coaching client who changed her writing goal from completing two chapters to reaching a word count, and why that adjustment represented better judgment rather than less ambition. In this episode: Why high achievers find it so uncomfortable to become beginners again

Are you so busy maintaining your current life that you have no time to build the next one? There's a big difference between being busy and building. And for successful professionals, freelancers, and entrepreneurs, confusing the two can keep us stuck for years. In this episode of Tales from The Lane, I'm sharing a conversation with a freelancer whose calendar was packed with low-paying, unfulfilling work. He had an exciting idea for a new offer that could significantly increase his income and give him more freedom, but he couldn't find the time to develop it. Sound familiar? Sometimes, creating your next level of success means temporarily doing less, earning less, turning down opportunities, or investing money before you see a return. From the outside, it can look like you're moving backward. But you may actually be creating the runway for your next big move. We'll explore why busyness feels so rewarding, how scarcity fears keep us saying yes to work we've outgrown, and how to create the financial and emotional breathing room to build something better. In this episode: Why being busy and making progress aren't always the same thing

The Creators Leadership Mastermind, my 9-month guided mastermind group for people ready to finally move a meaningful goal from idea to reality, is open for enrollment through October 11th. If you're ready to find out what completing your big thing could set in motion, book a call with me today to get the conversation started. We spend an enormous amount of time talking about how to reach our big goals. But what actually happens after you do? In this episode of Tales from The Lane, I'm looking at what it really feels like when something that started as a scribble in a notebook, an idea in a voice memo, or a dream you weren't quite sure you could pull off finally exists in the world. I'm sharing some of my own finish-line moments: opening the box containing the first copies of Beyond Potential, wrapping up the first year of my Virtual Summer Cello Festival, hearing the final cheers at our first Summer Pops concert, and realizing that the big moment itself isn't always where the real payoff happens. Sometimes the finish line is exhilarating. Sometimes it's strangely anticlimactic. Sometimes you're simply exhausted. But then you start noticing what changed. You trust yourself differently. You have evidence that you can make something real. Other people begin seeing you differently. New opportunities appear. Your network expands. Your tolerance for uncertainty grows. And the next big idea doesn't seem quite so impossible. I'm also sharing stories from several of my Mastermind clients whose original goals led to outcomes they couldn't possibly have predicted: an online festival that led to teaching at a dream conservatory and judging international competitions; a distinctive teaching methodology that caught the attention of a dream school; Zoom webinars that grew into national speaking opportunities; and work in dance and movement that is now taking one client around the world. Because sometimes your big project is an audition for opportunities you don't even know you're auditioning for. And perhaps the biggest shift of all is one you don't fully notice until afterward: The finish line didn't transform you. It revealed how much you'd already transformed along the way. In this episode: Why achieving a huge goal can feel surprisingly anticlimactic The unusual pride that comes from seeing your own idea become real How completing something gives you evidence for the next big thing Why experience teaches you to trust yourself when things inevitably go wrong How visible work changes the way other people perceive you The opportunities, relationships, and "street cred" that can compound from one completed goal Why you can't calculate the full ROI of a project before you begin How action changes identity Why the real payoff of a big goal is often the wake it leaves behind The finish line may last five minutes. What it changes can last for years. 📚 Get my book Beyond Potential 🎯 Interested in a 90-minute Strategy Session? Or DM me "Strategy" 📩 Subscribe to my weekly newsletter, The Weekend List 📸 Instagram: @kkayaian

***The Creators Leadership Mastermind, my 9-month guided mastermind group for people ready to finally see their biggest goals come to life, is open for enrollment through October 11th. Book a call today to get the conversation started***

What happens when something you really, really wanted doesn't work out? You don't get tenure. The business fails. The career you spent decades building no longer fits. A relationship ends. Or maybe you simply realize that the version of success you've been working toward isn't something you want anymore. For high achievers, failure can become tangled up with identity surprisingly quickly. We know how to work harder. We know how to persevere. But what happens when trying harder isn't actually the answer? This week on Tales from The Lane, I'm joined by Steve Kamb, author of the new book How to Try Again and founder of Nerd Fitness. Steve originally set out to write a book about behavior change and what happens when we fail to follow through on our goals. Then his own life went sideways. Personal and professional failures changed the book, and ultimately changed the way Steve thought about success, identity, resilience, and what it actually means to begin again. We talk about Steve's PACT framework: Pause, Accept, Change, Try, and why sometimes the most productive thing you can do is stop pushing forward long enough to figure out whether you're even still headed in the right direction. We also dig into what happens when achievement becomes part of your identity, why acceptance is very different from giving up, how to examine a past failure like a detective instead of a prosecutor, and the surprisingly difficult question: If you succeed at what you're doing now, will you actually want the life that success creates? Steve shares his own experience spending years in the wrong role inside the company he founded, eventually "firing himself" so he could return to the creative work that made him feel alive. And if you're currently somewhere between the person you used to be and the person you're becoming, we also talk about the deeply unglamorous but very real "caterpillar goo" stage of reinvention, when the old identity is breaking down and the new one hasn't quite formed yet. This is a conversation about failure, yes. But even more, it's about giving yourself permission to change your mind, choose another path, and try again differently. Connect with Steve Instagram: @SteveKamb Threads: @SteveKamb Substack: @SteveKamb LinkedIn: Steve Kamb Get the Book: How to Try Again Connect with Kate: 📚 Get my book Beyond Potential 🎯 Interested in a 90-minute Strategy Session? or DM me "Strategy" 📩 Subscribe to my weekly newsletter, The Weekend List 📸 Instagram: @kkayaian