Your Feelings Are Terrible CEOs

everybody has a course, a blueprint, a digital product, a side hustle, or a new way to make money online. and apparently, we're all supposed to be doing all of it. 😂 but at what point did watching somebody else pursue an opportunity convince us that we were missing one? in this episode, i'm unpacking something i've caught myself wrestling with lately: the exhaustion of everything we could be doing. we're talking about borrowed ambition, social comparison, the pressure to monetize absolutely everything, and why being capable of more doesn't necessarily mean you're obligated to do more. sometimes we're not actually dissatisfied with our lives. we're just overstimulated by everybody else's. and maybe the question isn't whether you could build something else, earn more, or pursue another opportunity. maybe the question is whether you actually want to. the goal was never to build every life you could possibly live. it was to build one you actually want.

I grew up fat. By the time I got to college, I weighed around 238 pounds. Eventually, I lost roughly 100 pounds and I genuinely believe that experience changed the trajectory of my life in ways that had very little to do with the number on the scale. Losing that weight was one of the first times I learned what could happen when I changed my own behavior. I learned discipline, delayed gratification, consistency, and how to keep going long before anyone could see the results. I learned that confidence isn't something you magically find. Sometimes you build it by collecting evidence that you can trust yourself. And then life handed me something I couldn't outwork. After walking through four miscarriages, I had to confront a much harder truth: sometimes you can do everything right and still not get the outcome you desperately want. One experience taught me agency. The other taught me surrender. And somewhere in the tension between those two lessons is so much of the woman, and entrepreneur, I am today. In this episode, I'm talking about growing up overweight, losing and maintaining 100 pounds, the connection between discipline and self-trust, what miscarriage taught me about the limits of control, and why I believe you should still push yourself even when you're not guaranteed the outcome. Because there is a difference between accepting what isn't yours to control and leaving your own potential untouched. You don't get to control everything that happens in your life. But man, I want to know what happens when I take full responsibility for the parts that are mine.

What happens when the thing you’ve committed to stops rewarding you emotionally? When the novelty wears off, relationships change, momentum dips, and the work starts to feel ordinary, it can get really easy to mistake discomfort for direction. In this episode, I’m talking about the emotional cost of staying, why loneliness can make escape look like clarity, and the very real difference between changing the vehicle and abandoning the destination. I’m also unpacking why I’ve stayed in this industry for nine years, what keeps me from reopening every decision in a hard season, and what I actually do when I feel disappointed, lonely, bored, or tempted to burn the whole thing down. We talk about the compound interest of staying, why you can’t shortcut tenure, how to stop letting absence become louder than presence, and why sometimes the answer isn’t leaving — it’s building again. This one is for the person who still believes in what they’re building, but needs a reminder that a hard season does not get to rewrite years of evidence. Because before you burn the house down, you might want to figure out what’s actually on fire.

What if the people you’ve decided would never want what you have are actually the exact people you should be talking to? I came home from Portugal with one belief completely challenged: the aces aren’t hard to find. We’re often taught to look for the obvious need... the person who needs more money, hates her job, wants more flexibility, or desperately needs something to change. But what about the woman whose life is already good? The high performer. The successful one. The woman with options, influence, ambition, and a proven ability to make things happen. Success doesn’t eliminate desire. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between scanning for pain and scanning for capacity, why “I don’t want to bother her” might actually be rejection avoidance, how to identify the gap when someone doesn’t need saving, and why your opportunity is not an inconvenience. Because people don’t just buy products or opportunities, they buy change. And sometimes the change someone wants isn’t survival. It’s expansion. Most importantly, we’re getting into conviction: becoming an evangelist for something that genuinely changed your life without believing everyone has to want it. Because you cannot attract extraordinary people while apologizing for the vehicle you’re asking them to consider. Maybe you don’t need more people. Maybe you need a bigger belief about the people already in front of you. The aces aren’t hard to find. They’re hard to see when your belief is too small to imagine them saying yes.

there’s a strange kind of grief that can come with getting exactly what you wanted. in this episode, i’m talking about the parts of growth and success we don’t say out loud enough — missing a simpler life you’d never actually choose to go back to, the loneliness that can come with becoming someone different, friendships changing, moving goalposts, and the realization that achievement changes your circumstances much faster than it changes you. we’re also talking about vision — why it’s dangerous, what happens once you’ve seen a bigger life for yourself, and why wealth, to me, has become less about what you can buy and more about what you’re free to release. because you can love the life you’ve built and still grieve parts of the life you left behind. you can be grateful and still want more. you can miss something without wanting it back. and sometimes the things that break your heart are the very things that fix your vision. this one is personal. let’s talk about the grief of getting what you wanted.