Pivot with Jenny Blake

327: 🐺The Wolf You Feed — On Addiction, Recovery & Codependency — and What We Get Wrong About All Three with Eric Zimmer

Pivot with Jenny Blake

Show Notes

At 24 years old, Eric Zimmer was homeless, addicted to heroin, and facing jail time. In the decades since, he has found a way to recover from addiction and build a life worth living for himself, while coaching others through his programs and award-winning podcast The One You Feed, based on an old parable about two wolves at battle within us (a story I also share in Pivot). We had the great pleasure of recording in person—while meeting for the first time! This was extra special because of how much Eric generously shares about his pivots through addiction and recovery, the deeper needs beneath destructive coping habits, how challenging addiction can be on friends and family, and what the literature often gets wrong about codependency. More About Eric: For the past 20 years, Eric Zimmer has worked as a behavior coach. He’s also a Certified Interfaith Spiritual Director, podcaster, and writer, who is endlessly inspired by the quest for a greater understanding of how our minds work and how to intellectually create the lives we want to live. Since 2014, he has been hosting the award-winning podcast, The One You Feed, based on an old parable about two wolves at battle within us. His story and his work have been featured in the media including TEDx, Mind Body Green, Elephant Journal, the BBC, and Brain Pickings.

🌟 3 Key Takeaways

Gabor MatĆ© says addiction is often ā€œa person’s attempted solution to a deeper problemā€ of connection and love.

Giving up behaviors that comfort us, numb us, or artificially connect us is possible if we seek true assurance, acceptance, and real connection—those are the ingredients that lead to human thriving—but only in their true forms.

Anxiety and trying to ā€œfixā€ things takes a lot of energy. If you have a loved one who is stuck in a cycle of addiction, start by shifting your focus from worrying to discovering what you can control, and what actions will allow you to refuel, so you can take care of yourself and others.

āœ… Try This Next: Sometimes, in the moment, there isn’t anything to do about it other than be upset, and that’s okay. When you’re in a dark space, recognize it and feel what you’re feeling, while keeping your mind open to change.

šŸ”— Resources Mentioned

Eric on the web, IG: @one_you_feed, Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook

Eric’s podcast: The One You Feed

Articles: Behavior Change Components, Life’s ā€œDark Hallwaysā€: Where Transformation Happens, Emotional First Aid: Uncertainty, Fear, and Anxiety, Fogg Behavior Model: What Causes Behavior Change?

Video: TEDxColumbus: The Battle of Changing Your Behavior

šŸ“š Books Mentioned

The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, When the Body Says No, and The Myth of Normal by Gabor MatƩ

Future Tense: Why Anxiety Is Good for You (Even Though It Feels Bad) by Tracy Dennis-Tiwary

Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business

Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One

Life After College

Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change: A Guide for Families

šŸŽ§ Related Episodes

The One You Feed: How to Create a Spiritual Principal Centered Life with Eric Zimmer

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Pivot:

124: Penney & Jenny Show — Embracing Liminal Space (the In-Between)

317: ā€œWe are the Refresh Generationā€ — Shifting Out of Reality Escape Artist Mode with Paul Angone

92: Adulting to Win: Powerful Questions and Pivotal Plot Points with Paul Angone

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