We're Living Longer. Here's How to Die Better.

The conversation centers on the often-avoided topic of death, emphasizing the importance of discussing it openly. Dr. B.J. Miller, a hospice and palliative care physician, shares insights from his experiences with patients and families, advocating for a shift in how society perceives death. He argues that death should not be viewed solely as an enemy but as a natural part of life that can sometimes be a relief from suffering. Miller highlights the growing interest in end-of-life planning and the need for conversations about death, especially as the population ages.

Miller also addresses anticipatory grief, explaining that many people begin grieving before a loved one passes away, especially when faced with chronic illness. He encourages families to engage in discussions about living wills and advanced directives, framing these conversations as a way to honor a loved one's wishes and alleviate burdens during difficult times. The dialogue underscores the necessity of normalizing discussions about death to foster understanding and connection among family members.

The episode concludes with reflections on the emotional complexities surrounding death and the potential for these conversations to enrich life. Miller's perspective aims to empower individuals to embrace the reality of mortality, suggesting that acknowledging death can enhance the appreciation of life itself.

Palliative care and hospice physician Dr. BJ Miller explains how honest conversations about death can help us live -- and die -- on our own terms.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

BJ Miller's company Mettle Health — support for illness, grief and dying

BJ Miller’s book, A Beginner’s Guide to the End

Five Wishes — a commonly used advanced directive

MyDirectives — an online advance-directive storage

Empathy — digital estate-planning tools and more

Jennifer Lai and Leying Tang produced this episode. Video production by Jilanne Doom, with assistance from Jasmine Brooks and Andrew Quimby. Andrea Kane is the medical writer. Dan Dzula is the technical director, and Dan Bloom is the showrunner. Ben Tinker is vice president of news at CNN, and Zach Goldbaum is senior director of podcasts at CNN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices