EP 47 | Using Rewards Without Wrecking Intrinsic Motivation: What Actually Works

Stickers. Marble jars. Token systems. Oh my! They're everywhere in early childhood - and for good reason. Rewards often work - but what are they really teaching children? And what if we’re using them in ways that create more problems down the track? In this episode, I unpack the biggest myths about rewards and give you six practical, research-aligned ways to use them without crushing motivation, connection, or community. You’ll hear: 🪄The problem with how rewards are often studied (and what’s missing from the data). 🪄Three myths about rewards that just won’t die (and why they’re so sticky). 🪄 Six practical ways to use rewards well, without relying on bribes or behaviour scripts. 🪄The difference between “supporting behaviour” and “controlling it.” 🪄 Why praise matters and how to use it to build self-worth, not just win approval. Whether you’re pro, anti, or somewhere in the murky middle, this episode will give you clarity and confidence to use rewards with intention; not just habit.

Helpful links Download my free guide Navigating Rewards When You’re Expected to Use Reward Systems Purchase my Behaviour Bites guide More Than “Good Job”: A Practical Guide to Praise That Builds Lifelong Learners

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