Show Notes
There's no question that the idea of affirmation has taken a turn for the worse. Kids are suffereing from confusion and parents struggle to find the right kind of support as objective truth is considered a threat. My guest Stephanie Winn is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, whistleblower against gender malpractice, and host of the podcast You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist. During this episode we address the social pressures being placed on families, the dangers of what is being called gender affirmation care and how we can properly protect and serve our kids in spite of what may be working against us.
Stephanie is host of the podcast You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist
You can go to Stephaniewinn.com to book a free 15 minute discovery call or take advantage of her services for a 60 minute call.
Also, she will soon be launching a course for parents of youth with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria who are looking for answers beyond affirmation. bio.site/sometherapist
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