Becoming You - The Podcast with John Fleming

S1E9: What It Means to Be Yourself: Gender & Identity with Dr. Vanessa Lacey

Becoming You - The Podcast with John Fleming

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In this episode of Becoming You – The Podcast, John Fleming sits down with Dr. Vanessa Lacey, a psychotherapist, educator, parent, and one of Ireland’s leading voices in trans advocacy. Vanessa shares her deeply personal story - from growing up in 1960s Waterford, through years of survival and silence, to finding her truth and stepping into a life of authenticity, compassion, and service. This is a conversation about identity, family, healing, and the quiet courage it takes to live in alignme...

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