Ep 195. From Living in His Car to Getting His Daughter Back, with Dave McGrath
Behind The Smile with Ash ButterssShow Notes
This week Ash sits down with Dave McGrath, a 47 year old carpenter and father who recently celebrated three years of sobriety. For a period of about nine months before rehab, Dave was living out of his car, seeing his daughter once every month or two, and losing himself completely to what he calls the alcoholic insanity. His rock bottom came in a friend's garage, staring at an extension ladder and a rope, before something in him snapped awake enough to call a rehab.
In this raw and honest conversation, Dave takes Ash through the chaos of early sobriety attempts that did not stick, the shame of losing contact with his family and his daughter, and the strangers along the way who quietly helped him find his footing, including a chance encounter on a footpath that led him to treatment. He also opens up about an unexpected and profound spiritual awakening in a church that changed the course of his recovery, and what it has taken to rebuild trust with the people he hurt along the way. This is a story about hope, redemption and never giving up.
Episode chapters: 00:00 Introducing Dave McGrath 03:21 The Photo: A Visitation Day With His Daughter 04:16 The Unmanageability of Alcoholic Insanity 05:55 The First Drink as a Child 09:30 Hating Who He Saw in the Mirror 10:41 The Craving He Could Never Control 15:14 Failed Attempts and Dry Spells 18:52 Cold Water Plunges at 2am 19:33 Rock Bottom: The Rope in the Garage 21:31 A Stranger on the Street Who Showed Him the Way 23:21 A Daughter Waiting at the Window 26:03 From Dry Drunk to Actually Working the Program 44:51 A Spiritual Awakening at Church 47:57 Daily Conscious Contact and Letting Go of Rage 50:21 Three Non-Negotiables for a Happy, Authentic Life Join Ash’s community newsletter! Click the link here to join. Upcoming Retreats The Embodied Woman One Day Retreat | October 25th | Find Out More The Embodied Woman 5 Day Retreat | April 21 - 25, 2027 | Find Out More A Sacred Return | Bali | August 16 - 20, 2027 Email [email protected] for more information
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