Reclaiming Self in Midlife: Balancing Motherhood, Perimenopause, and Authenticity - with Ashleigh Tobin.

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of a street campaign I carried out in Bristol, where I stopped mothers in public space and asked one simple, unexpected question: “What would you say to another mum who feels she’s lost herself?” This episode isn’t about solutions. It’s about the moment itself.

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my Bristol street campaign — where I asked seven mothers one question: “What would you say to another mum who feels she’s lost herself?” Their answers revealed powerful patterns about identity, overwhelm, and visibility in motherhood. We explore: 💬 The phrases nearly every mother repeated “It gets easier.” “You’ll find yourself again.” Why this comfort is also a cultural script — and what it reveals about the lack of support mothers receive now. 🔥 Three core themes from the conversations Using their exact words, I share what mothers told me about overwhelm, identity blur, and the lifeline of connection. 👁 Why mothers feel lost — and why it’s not personal Identity isn’t disappearing. It’s being suffocated by lack of space, witnessing, and visibility. 🧩 Visibility as identity oxygen How the campaign confirmed my biggest belief: mothers don’t need to wait for life to get easier — they need to be seen. 🔬 The Observer Effect of motherhood A simple metaphor that explains why mothers sharpen when witnessed, and blur when they’re not. 🎥 What’s next for The Firestarter Question How this project is expanding, where to watch the clips, and what future episodes will unpack about matrescence and visibility. ⸻ This isn’t an episode about “losing yourself.” It’s about what happens when a mother’s inner world is finally acknowledged and honoured. ⸻ 🧠 Mentioned in this episode: 🎥 The Firestarter Question clips on Instagram @firestartermum 🎧 Find Her Again™ – Free 7-day voice note journey 💌 Connect with me on Instagram @firestartermum Watch The Observer Effect 🔥 Find your fire and shine. Firestarter Mum Shop Gosia x

In this spontaneous episode (recorded in the quiet before preschool pick-up), I share raw reflections about what visibility really means — beyond the nervous system, beyond Human Design, beyond strategy.

You’ve been told that mums don’t show up because they’re afraid of being judged. But what if fear isn’t the real reason? What if the actual block is that you’re no longer sure who’s doing the showing up? In this intimate, late-evening recording, I talk about visibility from a place no one prepares you for: The messy middle. The in-between. That liminal space after a major identity shift — like motherhood, midlife, or a business reinvention — where your voice feels distant and your message… unclear. We explore: ✔️ Why visibility blocks are often identity blocks ✔️ The 3 stages of transformation: separation, liminality, reintegration ✔️ Why you might feel muted — even if you were once confident and clear ✔️ The business beliefs that no longer fit post-motherhood (and what’s replacing them) ✔️ Why voice notes and raw reflections can help you reconnect with yourself ✔️ The nervous system truth no one tells you: “Safety comes before strategy.” This episode isn’t about bouncing back or powering through. It’s about naming the invisible — and giving yourself permission to be seen before you have it all figured out. 🧠 Mentioned in this episode: 🎧 Find Her Again™ – Free 7-Day Voice Note Journey A gentle space to reconnect with your voice, identity and visibility — on your terms. 🧭 Ready to navigate the in-between with support? DM me @firestartermum or email [email protected] and let me know where you are on your identity journey. You don’t have to skip the messy middle. It’s where your magnetism lives. Find Your Fire & Shine! Gosia x

In this episode of Firestarter Mum, I break down visibility through the lens of Human Design. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “bad at showing up,” this episode will shift everything. I walk you through how each energy type (Manifestor, Generator, MG, Projector, Reflector) experiences visibility differently—and why the pressure to be consistent like everyone else is actually burning you out. Expect powerful metaphors (like wildfire vs. lighthouse), practical examples (especially for life coaches), and permission to stop forcing strategies that don’t match your rhythm.