165: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex… Did You Actually Want It? feat. She Comes First author Ian Kerner

This week, Vee and Elle chat about a wild weekend of play parties, Slut School, and Vee's very first time bringing a woman to orgasm through oral sex. They explore asking for what you want, navigating different aftercare needs, and the importance of saying no while staying connected to your partner. Elle shares how she eased back into sex after a long dry spell, why slowing down and receiving pleasure made all the difference, and an unexpected handjob lesson involving gym calluses. Plus, the ...

This week, Elle and Vee are joined by their friend Dean, partner of repeat guest Aphrodite, for a conversation about navigating non-monogamy with emotional intelligence. From sexy Renaissance Faire costumes and play party debriefs to having tough conversations when you're already emotionally depleted, they explore how to push your growth edges without pushing past your limits. Dean opens up about being demisexual in the lifestyle, why labels can both help and hold us back, and shares some ver...

This week, Vee and Elle chat with Jordana Ezra, aka The Queer Sex Coach, about redefining what counts as sex, navigating bisexual awakenings, and why curiosity beats technique when it comes to eating pussy. From tribbing vs. scissoring to pussy worship, self-pleasure, and unlearning shame around smells, juices, and our bodies, they explore how sexual literacy and nervous system safety can transform pleasure. Plus, Vee shares takeaways from Jordana's tantric-inspired massage workshop, and the ...

This week, Vee and Elle revisit a Halloween favorite from 2023: a whirlwind trip to a lifestyle party filled with group sex, spanking, strap-ons, sensory deprivation, and a six-person orgy. Vee shares what she learned about navigating a big sex party—from confidently saying no and understanding orgy etiquette to creating privacy, leaning into novelty, and surrendering control while blindfolded. They also get into how sex can feel different with strap-ons, moving together during penetration, a...

This week, Elle and Vee sit down with internationally recognized sex educator and “sex hacker” Kenneth Play to explore how Eastern philosophy, Western science, and a growth mindset can completely change the way we experience sex and pleasure. Kenneth breaks down how to train your body to experience different types of orgasms, hack anal and prostate pleasure, map the clit, work with the vagus nerve, and stack different sensations to unlock multiple orgasms. Plus, they get into kink and psychol...