Showing Up Present: Sobriety & New Dad Life with Corey Davis
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<p>Episode 7: Showing Up Present: Sobriety & New Dad Life with Corey Davis</p><p><br /></p><p>Becoming a dad changes everything—and for Corey Davis, it also meant launching a new business, deepening his sobriety journey, and redefining what it means to be fully present as a father.</p><p><br /></p><p>In this honest, thoughtful, and deeply helpful episode of The Dudela Podcast, Corey shares his story of getting sober at 22, building Soba Golf (a wellness-driven, sober-friendly golf community), and raising two daughters just 13 months apart. We talk about the real struggles of new parenthood, how to build presence in the chaos, and why community may be the most important part of the journey.</p><p><br /></p><p>Whether you're a new dad, a girl dad, a sober dad, or just trying to be more present—this one hits hard in the best way.</p><p><br /></p><p>Here's what we covered:</p><p><br /></p><ul><li>Corey’s journey to 15 years of sobriety—and what made him finally get help</li></ul><ul><li>What Soba Golf is, who it’s for, and how it’s changing the game</li></ul><ul><li>Why community is essential for dads, not just for sobriety</li></ul><ul><li>What to do when parenting feels intense and overwhelming</li></ul><ul><li>Finding peace when you miss your kid five minutes after bedtime</li></ul><ul><li>How to stay connected to your wife through the chaos of parenting</li></ul><ul><li>The tension between being a dad and being your own person</li></ul><ul><li>Why it’s okay to not feel present—and what you can do about it</li></ul><ul><li>Practical advice for the newborn phase, night shifts, and sleep</li></ul><ul><li>What your kids learn from how you treat yourself and your partner</li></ul><p><br /></p><p>If you’ve ever searched:</p><p><br /></p><p>how to be present as a dad, how to stay sober as a parent, sober dad community, what to do when parenting feels overwhelming, postpartum marriage advice, how to stay connected after baby, how to be a good dad, parenting with purpose, dad guilt at night, sobriety and fatherhood, golf without drinking, dad community support, mindful parenting podcast, sober podcast for men, how to survive the first year of parenting, present parenting tips, spiritual parenting for dads, dad burnout, when both parents are exhausted</p><p><br /></p><p>This episode is for you.</p><p><br /></p><p>Want to connect with Corey or learn more about Soba Golf?</p><p>Follow him at @sobagolfco and visit soba.golf</p><p><br /></p><p>✨ Want more connection and community like this?</p><p>Join the Spit-Up Society Discord where we’re talking real fatherhood every day:</p><p>👉 thedudelaco.com/join</p>
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