The Kink Consultant

How to Tell Your Partner About Your Fetish with Miz Darling

The Kink Consultant

Show Notes

Miz Darling returns to discuss how to tell your partner about your fetish, navigate shame and fear, and build healthy relationships around kink.

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This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda sits down with returning guest and good friend Miz Darling for a conversation about one of the most common questions in the fetish community: how do you tell your partner about your fetish? They explore why shame stops so many people from having the conversation at all, including the story of a client who was considering divorce and an affair before ever speaking to his wife about his desires.

Amanda and Miz Darling also discuss their upcoming book, Complicated Pleasures, which explores how fetishists navigate long-term relationships and whether it is possible to make things work with a vanilla partner. If you have ever struggled with telling your partner about your fetish, this episode offers practical advice, reassurance, and real talk about shame, fear, and connection.

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