364 — How to Stop Making a Hard Situation Even More Miserable
Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy MorinShow Notes
Without meaning to, most of us make hard situations even harder with the stories we tell ourselves about them. The good news is you can stop adding extra misery, no matter how tough things get.
Today I’m sharing three simple tools to keep you from fueling your misery, plus how to tell when you shouldn’t try to make the best of an unhealthy situation.
Some of the things I talk about are:
The corporate job I took during the pandemic, and the one thought that kept making it more miserable.
Why it’s not the situation itself that makes us miserable, but the story we tell ourselves about it.
What making the best of a hard situation is not, and why mental strength isn’t about gritting your teeth through anything.
The question to ask yourself first: is this something to accept for now, or something to change or leave?
The sneaky words that turn a preference into a demand, and what to say instead.
Why saying “I can’t stand this” makes things feel worse, even while you’re standing it.
How labeling yourself or others keeps you stuck, and what to do instead.
The question that turns a hard situation into a chance to grow mentally stronger.
My challenge for you this week to start shifting your mindset.
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