The Pain Nobody Warns You About in Ministry | S4E46 BEYOND THE LETTER PODCAST

Should you tell your spouse everything?In this episode of Beyond I Do, Ashley, Sanaz, and Erica have an honest conversation about secrets, past relationships, trauma, attraction, infidelity, and how much transparency actually belongs inside a marriage.They talk about whether your spouse needs to know every detail of your past, what happens when someone weaponizes information you trusted them with, and why safety is such an important part of vulnerability.They also discuss what to do when you find yourself attracted to someone outside your marriage, whether a crush should be confessed, and how small compromises can eventually become much bigger problems.Sanaz also shares a deeply personal story about something she kept from her husband after they were married, why she was afraid to tell him, and how his response brought her freedom instead of shame.Marriage requires honesty.But honesty also requires a relationship safe enough to hold the truth.--Do you struggle with obedience to God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido

What happens when the version of you everyone expects is no longer the real you?In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Tim Ross joins Will and Sammy for an incredibly honest conversation about leadership, vulnerability, brokenness, church culture, therapy, and the journey toward becoming fully integrated.Tim opens up about the years he spent trying to fit expectations that slowly pulled him away from himself, the moment he realized he could no longer lead that way, and how he eventually found his voice again.They also talk about why leaders need safe places to be human, what happens when vulnerability gets weaponized against you, why “it’s lonely at the top” is a dangerous lie, and how brokenness can become the very place God begins to bring healing.Tim also reflects on getting canceled, learning who his real audience was, and why he would rather be fully seen, fully heard, fully known, and fully loved than spend his life protecting an image.You were never created to become the version of yourself everyone else needs.Sometimes healing begins when the real you finally comes back.--Do you struggle with obedience to God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Connect with:Will Chung https://www.instagram.com/willkchung/Tim Ross https://www.instagram.com/upsetthegram/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Join our study on the book of Acts on our Bible Club Podcast!https://www.youtube.com/@bibleclubpodcast--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Why do we sometimes treat the people we love the worst?In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashley have an honest conversation about anger, arguments, emotional maturity, and the sides of ourselves that often come out strongest around the people closest to us.They talk openly about conflict in their own marriage, why Ashley can become harsh with her words when she’s angry, why Adam tends to shut down emotionally, and how easy it is for couples to turn disagreements into a competition over who is right.The conversation also explores insecurity, offense, therapy, emotional growth, and the uncomfortable reality that our spouse and family often see parts of us that everyone else never does.Marriage isn’t about winning every argument.It’s about becoming healthy enough that the people you love don’t constantly receive the worst version of you.--Do you struggle with obedience to God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido

What will your kids remember about you when they’re grown?In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam and Will have an unexpectedly personal conversation about fatherhood, work, ministry, and the pressure of trying to build something meaningful without missing your children along the way.They share stories about their own fathers, the moments from childhood they still carry today, and how those experiences are shaping the way they raise their own kids.From learning the difference between simply being present and being an intentional father, to making sure there is still something left in the tank when you get home, this conversation is a reminder that success outside the home means very little if your family only gets what is left of you.They also talk about regret, repairing relationships with your parents, and why even fathers who feel like they missed important years with their children can still rebuild something meaningful.Because one day your kids will grow up.The question is: when they look back, will they remember that Dad wanted to be there?--Do you struggle with obedience to God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Will Chung https://www.instagram.com/willkchung/--Join our study on the book of Acts on our Bible Club Podcast!https://www.youtube.com/@bibleclubpodcast--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Does taking care of yourself affect the health of your marriage?In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashlee have an honest conversation about physical attraction, body image, confidence, and why self-care matters even after you've said "I do."They share personal stories from the early years of their marriage, including struggles with weight, insecurity, intimacy, and how their relationships with their own bodies affected their connection with each other.The conversation also explores how getting older, having children, changing hormones, and building healthier habits can shape not only your physical health but also your emotional well-being and marriage.Because sometimes the problem isn't that you've stopped loving your spouse. It's that you've stopped taking care of yourself.--Do you struggle with obedience to God?Visit Faith at the Table to get your free resource today!https://tablefaith.com/--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido