Show Notes
Heather Chauvin has a metaphor for change that's going to stick with you: double dutch. You're standing outside the ropes, terrified of getting smacked, but the courage is in jumping in anyway — even if it hurts. In this clip, Heather gets into why personal development and self improvement rarely happen in comfort, and why building real confidence means being willing to jump back in after you've been knocked down. She also shares one of her go-to daily habits for feeling happier: the "wouldn't it be nice if" journal prompt, a low-pressure way to notice what you actually want instead of white-knuckling your way toward rigid goals.
For the moms in our community who feel stuck between wanting change and freezing up at the fear of it, this one's for you. You don't need it all figured out to take the next small step — a glass of water, a blocked-off Friday, whatever scares you a little. It's also a good reminder on how to stop being a perfectionist about your own growth: drop the need to do it flawlessly, and just start.
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