Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

I Wanna Be a Slut (w/ Lisa Hanawalt)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Show Notes

Illustrator and friend Lisa Hanawalt (Bojack Horseman, Tuca & Bertie) returns to the podcast to chat about starting fresh in the dating scene after a 15-year relationship with Adam Conover, and what happened when they tried opening things up before they parted ways. Lisa explains wanting to be a slut while still needing to feel safe, her dates with a pathological liar who claimed he’d survived three train crashes, and what it’s like explaining PMDD mood swings to a new partner. Next week, Adam Conover joins Nicole to share his side of things.

Lisa Hanawalt's new book, I Can’t Stop Thinking About Horses and Sex, is out October 20. https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/837946/i-cant-stop-thinking-about-horses-and-sex-by-lisa-hanawalt/

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