Show Notes
Why does it feel like you’re having the same fight over and over again in your marriage?
In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with Jenna Shaffer, a licensed therapist and Christian marriage coach, to talk about something so many couples experience… but don’t always recognize: toxic cycles.
We’re diving into what these patterns actually look like, why they keep repeating, and how past wounds, triggers, and miscommunication can quietly shape the way we show up in marriage.
But more importantly, we’re talking about how to break the cycle.
This conversation blends biblical truth + practical tools to help you move from frustration and disconnection to healing, awareness, and real freedom in your marriage.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do we keep going in circles?” – this episode is for you.
What a toxic cycle in marriage actually is
Why couples repeat the same arguments
How triggers and past wounds show up in your relationship
The difference between healthy conflict and destructive patterns
Practical steps to break unhealthy cycles
What to do in the moment when emotions escalate
How one person can begin shifting the dynamic
Inviting God into the healing process in marriage
“You’re not stuck, you may just be in a cycle you haven’t identified yet.”
Connect with Jenna Shaffer:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christianmillennialmarriages/
Website: https://christianmillennialmarriages.com/
Christian Marriage Academy: https://christianmillennialmarriages.com/cma
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