Summary
Self-confidence is often misunderstood as being derived from external validation, such as compliments or achievements. However, the discussion emphasizes that true self-confidence stems from internal self-esteem, which is defined as one's sense of worthiness. Many individuals who appear successful or well-regarded may still struggle with self-doubt if their self-esteem is not rooted in their own values and decisions.
The conversation outlines three key points about self-esteem: it must come from within, it should not rely on comparisons with others, and individuals need to consciously choose its source. High self-esteem is characterized by an internal measure of worth rather than a reaction to external praise or competition. To cultivate lasting self-esteem, individuals are encouraged to focus on personal growth and doing what they believe is right, rather than seeking validation from others or striving for perfection in social situations.
Practical advice is given to help individuals reflect on their sources of self-esteem and to establish new, internal benchmarks for confidence. This approach aims to foster a more resilient self-image that is less affected by external circumstances or the opinions of others.
Show Notes
Link to tip to master your emotions: https://goo.gl/UHklkpThe Core of Self-ConfidenceSelf-confidence is one of those things the we recognize when we see it. But we don't usually know how to build it. The reason is because we often misattribute self-confidence. We feel good when people give us compliments and assume that's where self-confidence must come from. After all, if we heard those nice things all the time, how could we not be confident.But while praise and compliments may help temporarily boost self confidence, they don't last long. The leave us searching for the next hit. What truly contributes to enduring self-confidence is building self-esteem. Because nothing inhibits confidence like low self esteem.Self-esteem can be a tricky concept, but it really boils down to how you feel about you. If you are proud of the way you are living, you'll have high self-esteem. If you're not, all the compliments in the world can float that sinking ship. Your have low self esteem.This video explores a few of the fundamentals of self-esteem so you know how to build your self-esteem from a rock solid foundation.Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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