a few things i've learnt

Donna Lancaster on teenage motherhood

a few things i've learnt

Show Notes

Trigger Warning: Suicide and smacking.

Coach and therapist Donna Lancaster reflects on becoming a mother at eighteen and shares how apologising to her daughters helped her transform their relationship. She explains how she learnt through therapy that whatever we do not heal, we inevitably pass on.

A Few Things I've Learnt is a podcast for when parenting gets hard and you're in need of some soothing words. Every guest answers the same three questions:

• What’s been the toughest challenge you’ve faced as a parent? • What did you learn about yourself? • What soothing words do you wish you’d heard at the time?

Across 32 seven-minute episodes, the podcast offers an audio library of wisdom and comfort for parents — no advice, no answers, just lived experience.

LINKS: @donnalancs www.donnalancaster.com https://donnalancaster.substack.com

Donna’s book: The Bridge: A nine-step crossing into authentic and wholehearted living: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/442876/the-bridge-by-lancaster-donna/9780241513101

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Executive Producers: Sophie Powling and Abby Hollick Music: Joseph Benoliel Artwork: Tania Estevez

Get in touch: [email protected] or [email protected] Follow us on Instagram and Substack: @a_few_things_ive_learnt and afewthingsivelearnt.substack.com

More from a few things i've learnt

Jun 22, 2026

New York Times bestselling author Catherine Newman (Wreck, Sandwich) reflects on three questions:

Jun 21, 2026

DJ, broadcaster and writer Annie Macmanus, explains why she decided to leave her successful radio show at BBC Radio 1 to focus on family time and how she came to understand that there is something feminist about being able to make choices for yourself.

Jun 20, 2026

British comedian Ria Lina (Mock the Week, Pointless) reveals what she has learnt from being an autistic mum raising neurodivergent children. She shares the realisation that standing up for her kids was not always helpful for them.

Jun 19, 2026

English poet and author Hollie McNish recalls the difficulty she felt when explaining death to her child as a non-religious parent. From visiting the sick person in hospital, to the death and beyond, there are many stages of questions that are hard to answer.

Jun 18, 2026

Playwright and screenwriter Jack Thorne (Adolescence, Enola Holmes and Harry Potter and the Cursed Child) recalls the pain of leaving his young son at school, when his son would cling to him, upset by the sudden rejection. To navigate those mornings, they invented a secret code, turning the walk to school into a shared adventure that allowing them to cope with the world.

See all episodes →