alexa & carlos penavega on grief, marriage & finding joy again

alexa and carlos penavega are back on couple things, and this conversation is one we won't forget.

since we last sat down together, life has brought unexpected challenges, heartbreaking loss, and a whole new perspective on love, marriage, and faith.

in this episode, alexa and carlos open up about navigating grief after the loss of their daughter, indy, how their marriage has evolved through difficult seasons, and the importance of leaning on each other when life doesn't go as planned. we also talk about their new book, *joy isn't canceled: what grief taught us about pain, peace, and purpose*, and the lessons they've learned about finding hope and joy even in the midst of heartbreak.

we're so grateful to have these two back for another honest, vulnerable, and encouraging conversation. whether you're navigating loss, walking through a difficult season, or simply looking for a reminder that joy is still possible, we hope this episode encourages you.

preorder *joy isn't canceled* (out november 3, 2026): https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/joy-isnt-canceled-carlos-penavega/1149631899

thanks for listening! ❤️

0:00 Introduction 0:50 Life updates and projects 3:33 Choosing Tennessee over Florida 6:49 Balancing life and ambition 9:08 Redefining success and legacy 12:53 The Pareto principle in life 16:35 Overcoming the need for control 19:25 The power of saying no 22:34 Cultivating genuine community 27:52 Discernment and grace 36:57 Walking through loss 47:16 Joy in the midst of grief 55:00 Lessons from the aftermath 1:07:55 Finding lasting perspective Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices