Show Notes
Why do some people keep choosing toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally unavailable partners? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how childhood patterns, trauma bonds, familiar dysfunction, love bombing, low self trust, and the hope of finally being chosen can shape relationship choices. You may not be attracted to pain itself, but you might be drawn to a dynamic that feels familiar or that promises validation. Learn how to recognize these patterns, rebuild your standards, and choose relationships that feel safe instead of chaotic. Healing is not about blaming yourself for the past; it is about giving yourself better options moving forward.All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealness
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She Had a Baby With a Narcissist Because She Thought It Would Make Him Love Her More and change his ways towards her. Big Big mistake because having babies DO NOT change people. They tend to make things worse. This man thought he was going to be happy with a side chick the side chick didn't even like him lol.