Kirsten Johnson Podcast

Ep 180 12 Ways AA Makes You the Problem When You Leave

Kirsten Johnson Podcast

Show Notes

Timestamps 00:00 AA Shutdown Playbook Intro 03:10 1 - Make It Personal Immediately 06:28 2 - Assume Motive You Can't Know 10:09 3 - Invoke Slogans As Sacred Truth 15:48 4 - Announce Sober Time 19:46 5 - Reduce AA to the Big Book 22:33 6 - Ignore Harm Entirely 27:48 7 - Turn Anecdotes Into Universal Laws 33:20 8 - Claim Superiority Through Suffering 35:08 9 - Label Dissent As Denial 37:46 10 - Declare Never A "Real Alcoholic" 40:22 11 - Truth Claims Without Data, Evidence, Citation 42:46 12 - End With Righteousness Resources for deconstructing AA: 👉 Deprogram Lounge (community, Zooms, book club, Escape Kit + more) 📚 Deprogram Book List (my fave deprogram, cult recovery and critical thinking books) Let’s get f*cking free

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