Show Notes
I mentioned these two videos: 🔗 If you don’t know what you want in 2026, start here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYLk8u8e_UA 🔗 Video on “the self-criticism cycle”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCxuFdIPqJk
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⛳️ Red Flags of Self-Improvement
→ Encourages isolating yourself (e.g. go ghost for 6 months, cut off everyone, etc.)
→ Over-focuses on “having discipline” and “taking action”, while ignoring emotional regulation, difficult days, different brains, flexibility, and letting go of self-criticism
→ Creates an “us vs them” dynamic that breeds division or superiority (e.g. “people like us vs people like them”)
→ Pushes rigid formulas, steps, or “right ways” of doing things without encouraging self-reflection or a personalised approach
→ Turns relationships into hierarchies (e.g. “high-value vs low-value people”)
→ Encourages self-rejection instead of self-acceptance
→ Feeds your ego or makes you feel “better than” others (e.g. “when you start healing, you won’t relate to people anymore”)
→ Encourages shame-based growth rather than curiosity-led growth
→ Promotes constant optimisation without emphasising space for fun, rest, and relationships
→ Pushes “more, more, more” instead of focusing on what’s actually effective (which is often less)
→ Over-identifies you with your problems in an unhelpful way (leans heavily on labels instead of helping you understand and change what’s actually going on)
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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*
00:00 Everyone is quitting self-improvement 00:33 The first self-improvement trap 02:08 The next trap 03:40 Trap #3 04:56 Self-improvement trap #4 06:50 SOooo... What then?! 07:20 Firstly, definitely stop doing this 08:22 And start doing this 08:54 Please! do this 09:19 How I can be a better creator 10:23 Creating responsibly 12:40 How I want to create going forward
🔗 Anything I mentioned ⇢
🔗 If you don’t know what you want in 2026, start here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYLk8u8e_UA 🔗 Video on “the self-criticism cycle”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCxuFdIPqJk 🔗 Tim Ferris Blog Post on The Self Help Trap: https://tim.blog/2026/03/04/the-self-help-trap/
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