Show Notes
“What you’re trying to say is that it’s easier for you to hide in your own darkness, than emerge cloaked in your own vulnerability. No better, but easier. However, the longer you hold it in, the more likely you are to suffocate. At some point, you must breathe.” ― Caleb Azumah Nelson, Open Water
In this episode of Paperback Perfumes, I’m joined by UK-based writer and podcaster Haydn, whose work explores fragrance, male grooming, and gifting. He writes for publications like Grazia, Rakes Sense, and The Perfume Society.
Haydn shares his journey from a long career in music to discovering fragrance as a new form of self-expression. We talk about the connections between scent and storytelling, and how both can be powerful tools for exploring identity, memory, masculinity, and vulnerability.
We also dive into the inspirations behind his podcast Man in the Mirror, and the unique conversations happening in place place like barbershops and what mean see when they pause and reflect about themselves with each other.
Fragrances mentioned: Sisters B4 Misters - Jusbox Versace Man Eau Fraîche - Versace Voyeur Verde - Maya Njie Teddy the Perfumer Nordic Cedar - Maya Njie French Waltz - Golf Le Fleur Melody - Miller Harris
Book discussed: Open Water - Caleb Azumah Nelson
Find Haydn here: Instagram: @yousmellgreatwhatisit @maninthemirrorpod
TikTok: @yousmellgreatwhatisit YouTube from Barnes Fragrance Fair ’Men Smell’ panel discussion
Theme music for the show was created by Raul Sanchez I Jorge. Check out his solo work on Wild Animal Records Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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