Nerida Bint | The Emotional Home — Childhood Wounds, Shame & Learning to Become Your Own Safe Place
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Nerida Bint's story is one of survival, shame and the slow, courageous work of coming home to yourself. Growing up as her stepfather's stepdaughter, Nerida spent her childhood watching a man look at her with contempt, never understanding why she couldn't earn his acceptance. What she didn't know was that his rejection of her was rooted in a rejection he had carried since boyhood, sent alone to boarding school as a deaf child, abandoned by his own mother. The pain had to go somewhere. It landed on her.
What followed were decades of not feeling like she belonged here.
In this conversation, Nerida opens up about the years she spent planning to take her life, the suicide attempts that finally broke her open, and the moment she sat in a car park watching a TEDx talk about shame and burst into tears for the first time in years. She shares what it felt like to run a string of successful gyms, be surrounded by community and love, and still go home every night to a version of herself she couldn't bear to be with.
We also dive deep into the emotional intelligence framework Nerida has spent years building from her own healing, the difference between your inner critic and your inner coach, why the emotions your parents couldn't hold become the emotions you can't hold, and what it means to finally stop running from pain and actually let it move through you. This episode isn't just about how dark it can get. It's about what becomes possible when you finally decide you're worth fighting for.
We explore growing up as a stepdaughter and the wound of parental rejection, generational trauma and how one person's pain becomes another's childhood, the external facade of success masking internal devastation, suicidal ideation as a coping mechanism not a desire to leave, the Brené Brown car park moment that changed everything, the Covid dark night that stripped it all back, emotional intelligence and the scale of consciousness, the inner critic and how to move toward the inner coach, connection before correction and how to raise emotionally healthy children, group healing and why shame dissolves in the presence of others, and what it feels like to finally fall in love with the woman in the mirror. Today, Nerida Bint is an emotional intelligence coach and mentor working with women across Australia and beyond, helping them understand the childhood wounds driving their patterns, release shame, and step into the version of themselves they were always meant to be. She has recently moved to Melbourne, found the love of her life, and is building a life that once felt completely out of reach. We were so glad she stayed.
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🎙 In this episode, we explore:
Growing up as a stepdaughter and the pain of unexplained rejection A father shaped by his own abandonment and how that trauma passed to her Feeling broken, invisible and suicidal from a young age Running multiple women's gyms while secretly planning not to stay The car park, the TEDx talk, and the first real understanding of shame Multiple suicide attempts and the friend who helped her find her way back Covid stripping away her business, her relationship and her identity overnight The lockdown awakening that finally made everything make sense The emotional home formed between ages zero and seven Why the emotions your parents couldn't hold become yours to carry Inner critic versus inner coach and the 400 to 600 repetitions it takes to rewire
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