462: I know what to do, I'm just not doing it
Take a Break from Drinking: Practical Tools to Drink Less & Change Your Relationship with AlcoholShow Notes
The thought, "I know what to do, I'm just not doing it," feels like an honest assessment, especially when you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and still aren't where you want to be. But what if this thought is quietly keeping you stuck in the very cycle you're trying to break?
In this episode, we're challenging the belief that you already know what to do when it comes to drinking less because having information isn't the same as knowing how to handle the moment when an urge appears.
Listen in this week to learn why the thought, "I know what to do, I'm just not doing it," creates more shame than progress, how it blocks real problem-solving, and how shifting from blame to curiosity makes it possible to understand what's happening in the moment and start building the skills needed to change your relationship with alcohol.
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