Ep 070: Everything Can’t Be a Priority

Ask me anything (link) Y'all, I need us to have an honest conversation about what it actually takes to heal your mother wound. Because one thing I'm noticing from the questions you send me is that many of us are still looking for a way to protect our peace, set boundaries, and become independent without having to make some really uncomfortable decisions. And sis, that's just not how this works. In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, I'm answering three listener questions about dealing with a manipulative mother, protecting your children from unhealthy family dynamics, living at home while trying to heal, and navigating the guilt that comes with setting boundaries. We're talking about why you can't control your mother's behavior, why becoming emotionally and financially independent is so important, and why setting boundaries means accepting that some people aren't going to like your decisions. I'm also challenging you to examine the ways you may still be showing up as a daughter seeking your mother's approval instead of an adult woman taking authority over her own life. Healing your mother wound isn't about figuring out how to make everybody happy. It's about learning to show up for yourself, protect your inner little girl, and make the hard choices necessary to build the life you want. In this episode, we're talking about: Protecting yourself and your children from a mother's harmful behavior. Why distancing yourself from your mother doesn't mean you can control what she says or does. The emotional and financial challenges of living with your mother while trying to heal. Why boundaries are about changing your behavior, not forcing someone else to change. Learning to manage guilt, grief, and rejection without abandoning yourself. Taking responsibility for your life and reclaiming your autonomy. Stay Connected Have a question about healing your mother wound? Submit it through the Ask Me Anything link in the show notes for a chance to have your question answered on the podcast. I'm also working on The Daughterhood, a documentary short exploring who we get to become as we heal our mother wounds. Learn more about the project and how you can support its production through the link in the show notes. Follow us on Instagram @blackmotherwound or @jenniferarnise and don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast. Remember: You can't control how other people respond to your boundaries, but you can decide how you're going to show up for yourself.

This week’s episode was recorded live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo hosted by Charlamagne Tha God and the Mental Wealth Alliance. I’m joined by licensed therapist and author Minaa B for a conversation about the Black mother wound, sibling relationships and what happens when the mother who hurt you becomes the mother who needs your care. We talk about: -How the mother wound impacts self-trust, confidence and people pleasing -Why siblings can grow up in the same house and have completely different experiences -Favoritism, competition and emotional neglect between siblings -How childhood roles follow us into our adult sibling relationships -Caring for an aging or toxic mother without abandoning yourself -Why caregiving does not have to mean sacrificing your mental health -Setting boundaries with family while still showing compassion -Letting go of the need to prove you’re a “good daughter” Healing your mother wound is not about fixing your relationship with your mother. It’s about healing the relationship you have with yourself. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @BlackMotherWound. More about Minaa B: Minaa B. is a highly sought-after licensed therapist, author of Owning Our Struggles, and creator of The Siblinghood Theory, a relational framework that examines how sibling and peer relationships shape how we navigate belonging, conflict, and connection throughout life. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The TODAY Show, BBC, CNN, and more. She hosts This Feels Familiar, a podcast that explores the relational patterns that keep people stuck, and serves as a relationship expert for eharmony. Minnab.com Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens after you’ve spent years healing your mother wound? At some point, you have to start living. In this episode, I’m talking about having the audacity to go after the life you actually want, especially when you didn’t grow up with someone encouraging your dreams, believing in you or teaching you how to believe in yourself. I share what this looks like in my own life as I return to the parts of myself that have always been there, including writing my first novel, working on a documentary and fully embracing myself as an artist. We talk about: Becoming someone different from who your mother expected you to be • Why healing requires more than understanding your pain • Building a community that supports who you’re becoming • Learning to trust your dreams without needing everyone else to understand them • Starting before you know exactly how everything will work • Doing the thing because you love it, not because it has to immediately make money • Giving yourself permission to change, pivot and want more If you’ve been doing this work for a while, the question becomes: What are you healing for if you’re not going to change your life? You don’t need the entire roadmap. You need to trust yourself enough to start and keep going. Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound. Here’s the link to ask your questions. And here’s the information about the Mental Wealth Alliance Expo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is a little different. You’re listening to audio from the live episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast I recorded in June 2026 in front of a live audience.

Do I ever regret the time you lost because of your mother wound?