The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza
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People with disabilities can be hot! People with disabilities can be sexy! And people with disabilities DESERVE PLEASURE! In this episode, we breakdown disability and pleasure with the amazing Andrew Gurza -- and their conversation with DB takes some twists and turns that are so real, they're going to strike a chord whether or not you're disabled yourself. And don't forget: anyone can become disabled. You never know if or when this conversation might hit even closer to home. GUEST DETAILS Andrew Gurza is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant and author of the book, Notes From a Queer Cripple: How to Cultivate Queer Disabled Joy (and be hot while doing it!). Andrew uses they/he pronouns and identifies proudly as severely disabled. He was the subject of an award winning National Film Board of Canada Documentary "Picture This". Andrew has guested on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage's Savage Love. They have spoken all over the world on sex, disability and what it means to be a Queer Cripple. They were also a Production Consultant and Actor on the Queer As Folk reboot in 2022. FROM THIS EPISODE Andrew's book Notes from a Queer Cripple (This is an affiliate link to our Bookshop.org shop! We'll receive a percentage back if you buy with our link -- and we hope you will!) Learn about Judith Heumann, "mother of the Disability Rights movement" Our episode with Steve Way and Danny Kurtzman on GOOD BAD THINGS ANDREW GURZA'S FAVORITE SEX TOYS The Magic Wand Original The Slipskin Realistic Silicone Dildo - 9" at BVibe FREE STI TESTING AND REMINDERS! STIs are way more common than most people realize (over 2.2 million reported in 2024). And when it comes to notifying partners, the stress and awkwardness can be real. That's where KISS comes in -- the anonymous STI notification app that helps you track hookups, alert partners, and manage your sexual health without ever sharing your personal info. No shame. No awkward DMs. Just smarter, stigma-free sexual health care.
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Download KISS and use code DBKISS for 50% off your first month of Premium. ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast X: @sexedwithdb YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 13 SPONSORS Uberlube, Magic Wand, and LELO. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: [email protected] Subscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 13 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) Social Media Content Creator: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa!
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