Amy Gahran: Solo polyamory and getting off the ‘relationship escalator’
Well Enough Alone - A Guide To Thriving SoloShow Notes
If you’ve ever been with a partner and asked, “Is this relationship going anywhere?” or been swept up in a romance without stopping to question if it’s really what you want, then you may already be familiar with the “relationship escalator.”
It’s a phrase coined by journalist, Amy Gahran, to describe the default set of steps society expects all intimate relationships to follow. She challenged the cookie cutter approach to modern love with her groundbreaking book, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator.
This week, she chats to Jill about unconventional intimate relationships including consensual nonmonogamy, polyamory and asexuality, as well as her own experiences of solo polyamory, and what she’s learned from being in relationships that don’t follow the standard social script.
Amy is based in Boulder, Colorado, and also writes under the pen name Aggie Sez on her blog, Solo Poly.
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