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CULTS: Lori Vallow Daybell, NXIVM & the Zizians Part 3

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Show Notes

If knowing about cognitive bias could protect you from a cult, why didn't it protect the Zizians?

⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of murder, the murder of children, suicide, sexual coercion and branding, coercive control and cult trauma. Listener discretion is advised.

Lori Vallow Daybell in Idaho and Arizona, Keith Raniere's NXIVM in Albany, New York, and Ziz LaSota's Zizians in the San Francisco Bay Area: a cult of two, a self-help company and a network of rationalists who believed they were the smartest people in any room.

Therapists Shannon and Cathy close the Cults series by asking whether anything about modern cults is new, or whether it's the same mechanism in a new costume, and what actually protects you.

CHAPTERS: 0:00 The most rational people in the room 0:59 Cults Part 3: same mechanism, new costume 2:28 Bounded choice: why didn't they just leave? 4:23 Coercive control, Biderman and a sheriff's department case 10:31 Hillman's soul loss and open door moments 13:55 Lori Vallow Daybell: the cult of two 20:08 NXIVM and Keith Raniere 29:09 The Zizians, and two corrections to Part 1 37:43 Why knowing about bias didn't help 40:57 What changed and what didn't 42:33 What actually protects you

IN THIS EPISODE: - Janja Lalich's bounded choice, from inside the Democratic Workers' Party - Evan Stark's coercive control and Biderman's chart of coercion - Cathy on coercive control at a systemic level in the LA Sheriff's Department - Why cults recruit capable people at open door moments, not weak ones - Zombies, JJ Vallow and Tylee Ryan, and spiritual reclassification - DOS, collateral and the brand as the point of no return - Therapy speak as moral justification, and a Teal Swan callback - Vegan anarcho-transhumanism, unihemispheric sleep and a leader with no title - Six deaths: Vallejo, Chester Heights, Vallejo again and Coventry, Vermont - Why marginalization, not identity, is the vulnerability - Keep one relationship the group does not control

CLINICAL TERMS: bounded choice, coercive control, entrapment, chart of coercion, DDD syndrome, thought reform, loaded language, doctrine over person, milieu control, commitment and consistency, moral disengagement, dehumanization, cognitive dissonance, mana personality, participation mystique, soul loss, escape from freedom, love bombing

CORRECTIONS TO PART 1: - The six deaths linked to the Zizians were three in 2022 and three in 2025, not 2025 and 2026. - We've retired "undead" and "p-zombie" as descriptions of Zizian doctrine until they're better sourced. - Everyone charged in the Zizian cases is presumed innocent.

SERIES: Cults Part 3 of 3. Part 1: CULTS: Heaven's Gate, the Zizians & Jonestown Part 1. Part 2: CULTS: Charles Manson, the Solar Temple & Adolfo Constanzo Part 2. Related Episodes: Season 3 Episode 9 Published Sept. 30, 2020• CULTS: Lori Vallow Daybell & Chad Daybell — The Doomsday Couple

RESOURCE: If you recognize yourself or someone you love, the International Cultic Studies Association (ICSA) lists therapists experienced with former members.

SOURCES: Lalich (2004) Bounded Choice · Stark (2007) Coercive Control · Biderman (1957) · Farber, Harlow & West (1957) · Hillman (1975) Re-Visioning Psychology · Moore (1992) Care of the Soul · Sottile (2022) When the Moon Turns to Blood · US DOJ · The Vow (HBO) · San Francisco Chronicle. Full APA list on Patreon.

Two licensed therapists, one forensic psychologist, one clinical LMFT, take apart the minds behind the crimes.

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