029- When Love Feels Like Danger: Why Your Nervous System Pushes Love Away
Beyond Words with Najwa ZebianShow Notes
Send us Fan Mail When love feels like danger, it’s not because you don’t want love. It’s because love has hurt you before. In this episode of Beyond Words, I explore why so many of us instinctively pull away from love — not out of fear of intimacy, but out of fear of repetition. When vulnerability once led to betrayal, abandonment, or emotional punishment, the nervous system learns to associate love with danger. We talk about: Why intensity at the beginning of a relationship is not the same a...
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