The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton
The Francesca Psychology PodcastShow Notes
Alain de Botton is one of the most influential philosophers of our time, best-selling author, and the founder of The School of Life. His work has helped millions of people develop greater self-understanding and improve their relationships.00:00 Intro01:56 The best thinking comes from problems07:45 The anatomy of a good friend10:10 What is an emotionally mature person?12:26 Why are some people stuck in earlier stages of development?13:44 How to get in touch with yourself15:30 The questions that unlock self exploration22:00 Emotional Curriculum24:00 How attachment styles form28:00 Why do we go for people that are good for us29:55 How to heal insecure attachment30:35 How to date successfully35:50 Dating mistakes we make36:50 How long should you wait for intimacy?39:20 Everyone has red flags 42:50 How to make someone fall in love44:40 Why some people are magnetic47:38 Taking successful people off the pedestal50:30 How to solve the loneliness epidemic54:40 Feeling like you never fit in56:00 Attachment styles in friendships58:30 Love reveals your true identity59:53 How do you know you've chosen the right person01:03:09 What lovable people look like01:03:39 Is love enough?01:05:27 How to know if to stay or go in a relationship01:07:12 Why do we sabotage good relationships01:10:05 Not being attracted to your partner01:17:03 How to navigate a breakup
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