Show Notes
It’s time to talk about the two kinds of people in this world: the seekers and the stuck. In this episode, I dive deep into the real reasons why some lives transform after abuse while others continue to feel stuck. We’re unpacking: Why healing is not about labeling your abuser a narcissist and calling it a day How to know when you’re ready to move from survivor to thriver. What your philosophy of life has to do with your emotional garden. Why reading one more Instagram post about toxic people isn’t going to transform your life. And how your anger might just be the spark that gets you out of the cage. Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Listen to my book, All the Scary Little Gods, for FREE! Liked this episode? Then check out these two other Flying Free episodes, “An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything” and “How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles.”
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