
The Secret Language of Flowers Every Plant Lover Should Know
Growing Joy with Plants - Wellness Rooted in Nature, Houseplants, Gardening and Plant CareShow Notes
How can we use flowers to further connect with nature and with the world? My mom once photocopied an entire flower dictionary for me from the thick pages of The Language of Flowers. I loved that she did it, but then I never really used it because it was too dense and there were a lot of meanings nobody says out loud anymore. But then I’ve thought deeply about it. I've grown dahlias my whole life. I have four hibiscus in my front lawn now. What if those choices were saying something? So I sat down with Mary Kelava, a former florist and author of A Bouquet of Words, to finally learn the language of flowers as a gardener. Come learn with me!
In this episode, we learn:
[01:27] Meet Mary Kelava!
[02:12] How she became a florist and a flower language expert
[03:41] Two types of flower books you’re bound to read!
[06:08] My mom’s photocopied dictionary part of ‘The Language of Flowers’
[07:41] Where does the language of flowers come from?
[10:21] How did the Victorian era understand the language of flowers?
[11:38] What the flowers you're drawn to might be telling you
[12:46] Why color, personal memory, and fragrance matter as much as the meaning
[15:03] Espoma Organic
[16:54] Leslie Halleck's new book, Home Greenhouse Revival
[18:30] Kate Middleton's wedding bouquet, Queen Elizabeth's funeral flowers, and a Lego hibiscus
[20:16] Do flower colors carry meanings of their own, or is it just color psychology?
[21:46] What zinnias mean, and how to handle flowers bred in every color
[22:58] What the research for her book ‘A Bouquet of Words’ looked like
[23:57] Do flower meanings hold up across cultures?
[25:35] How to start learning the language of flowers easily
[27:02] How to build a themed garden with meaning using easy-to-grow flowers
[28:29] Planning a flower memorial garden for a pet
[31:01] How to write notes that go with the bouquet
[32:29] Bringing this to the florist (or to the $6.99 Trader Joe's flowers)
[34:46] Bouquet recipes for housewarmings, Christmas, and new babies
[36:26] What are some birth month and zodiac flowers?
[37:02] Get well flowers, and giving hydrangea to someone who's persevered
[37:50] Why Mary assigns a signature flower to her closest friends
[38:34] What flowers to give someone in grief?
[40:49] Where to find Mary and A Bouquet of Words!
Mentioned in our conversation:
A Bouquet of Words by Mary Kelava
Language of Flowers by Vanessa Diffenbaugh
Episode 339: How to Grow Sweet Peas, The World's Most Nostalgic Flower with Marryn Mathis
To grow flowers that have meaning to you,
check out the full show notes and blog for Mary's recommendations!
Follow Mary:
Website Instagram Blogs
Thank you to our episode sponsors:
Espoma Organic
Visit espoma.com to find your local Espoma dealer or check my Amazon storefront.
Quarto: Home Greenhouse Revival by Leslie F. Halleck
Home Greenhouse Revival is available for pre-order now at quarto.com and launches in September. Pre-order your copy wherever books are sold or through your local bookstore.
Follow Maria and Growing Joy:
Order my book: Growing Joy: The Plant Lover's Guide to Cultivating Happiness (and Plants)by Maria Failla, Illustrated by Samantha Leung
Take the Plant Parent Personality Quiz (Get the perfect plants, projects and educational resources for YOUR Lifestyle)
Support Growing Joy with Maria by becoming a Plant Friend on Patreon!
Instagram: @growingjoywithmaria
Tiktok: @growingjoywithmaria
Subscribe to the Growing Joy YouTube channel! /growingjoywithmaria
Website: www.growingjoywithmaria.com
Pinterest: @growingjoywithmaria
Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
More from Growing Joy with Plants - Wellness Rooted in Nature, Houseplants, Gardening and Plant Care
When winter sets in and our gardens go dormant, that 'green itch' doesn’t go anywhere! In this Best of Growing Joy replay, I’m revisiting my conversation with returning guest Perla Sofía Curbelo-Santiago, certified horticultural therapist and author of Verdura: Living a Garden Life, all about indoor plant projects for stress relief and mental health. Perla shares her genius tiny barefoot garden, a shallow pot of fragrant thyme you can rest your feet on for a little grounding when it’s too cold to go shoeless outside (an idea I’ve used ever since). We also cover creating a miniature garden escape, gardening for your inner child, and why just 15 minutes with plants can lift your mood for days. In this episode, we learn: [01:53] Rebranding of my YouTube Channel [02:43] Introducing Perla Sofia Curbelo-Santiago aka Agrochic! [04:24] How did Perla develop her passion for gardening and plants? [07:05] How did Agrochic start? [09:38] How did Perla balance Spanish and English content? [11:32] What does her plant collection and garden look like? [15:08] Make meditation more relaxing and meaningful with Wind River’s Meditation Chimes! [16:51] Learn how to grow cut flowers with The Cut Flower Handbook’s beautiful illustrations! [18:41] Why are people drawn to nature and plants right now? [21:08] Seeking simplicity to escape social media overstimulation [22:08] Perla’s interesting success stories about bringing plants into clients' lives [29:17] What is nature’s role in mood and healing? [30:42] Concept of gardening as a means to reconnect with one's inner child [34:18] Rediscover a sense of “awe” and childlike wonder [38:21] What is Perla’s barefoot garden project all about? [45:02] How do you create a miniature garden for yourself? [50:34] Get Perla’s book and follow her on social media!
You probably spend most of your day inside. Most of us do... about 93% of our time, actually. Not to mention you’re definitely on your phone all the time. This is a health risk! To explain how harmful this habit is, I invited my dear friend Dr. John La Puma to explain what these habits might be doing to our brain and heart. He was on the show before, where we talked about culinary medicine and gardening! John is a board-certified internist, a trained chef, and he runs an organic regenerative farm in Santa Barbara. He also read 2,200 studies to understand why being outside feels so good. What he found became his book, Indoor Epidemic, which became the focus of our conversation, and how we are so starving for nature. Listen in!
Have you ever picked up a plant at the garden center and wondered how the houseplants even get here? I didn't think about it much until I was invited to speak at Cultivate, one of the biggest horticulture industry conferences, and I spent the whole time walking the halls. I'd been caring for plants for years. But I had no idea how much love and time go into getting one plant onto a store shelf. So I asked my friend Justin Hancock to walk us through it. Justin is a horticulturist at Costa Farms, the largest houseplant grower in the world. We talked about plant hunters, secret R&D areas in greenhouses, years of testing, and literally millions of cuttings before a plant ever makes it onto a store shelf! Let's dive in!
If you're already dreaming about your 2027 garden, I fully support you! But I also want to encourage you to take a beat... because the best thing you can do for next year's garden is to properly put your garden to bed for winter right now. So here's one of my favorite conversations for the Best of Growing Joy series. It's with author and garden influencer Resh Gala, and it's all about what she does at the end of the growing season to feed the soil, support wildlife, and make spring gardening so much easier. We cover compost, cover crops, what to leave behind, and what to clean up during your fall garden cleanup. And Resh shares the one crop you should plant before winter so you can enjoy it in the spring. In this episode, we learn: [05:19] Resh's gardening journey and how understanding soil quality led to her success [07:53] How does Resh balance gardening, extending the growing season, and self-care in her small backyard garden? [09:37] Creating a greenhouse effect in snowy conditions with bent metal or PVC pipes [11:24] Why preparing and “putting to bed” gardens for winter is important [13:20] What are the sustainable gardening practices for winter that you should know about? [16:57] Importance of adding compost to garden beds before winter to improve soil health [19:13] What should be done in spring to prepare the soil for planting? [20:18] Nourish your garden with Espoma Organic's diverse range of organic composts [22:19] Gift a touch of harmony this holiday with Wind River Wind Chimes [25:10] Why cover crops are a valuable addition to regenerative gardening and soil enrichment [28:54] Why it’s easy to grow garlic during winter (keeps pests away, resilient, and is a gardener’s favorite!) [32:09] Why is it important to reflect on the gardening season as part of self-care in plant care? [34:09] Resh’s favorite list of what to grow in preparation for the next garden season (tomatoes and cucumber varieties) [39:59] What kinds of flowers does Resh like to grow in her garden to attract pollinators? [48:19] Pre-order Resh's upcoming book Vegetable Gardening Made Easy later this year [50:52] Where can you find Resh on social media?
This might be uncomfortable to ask you, plant friends, but when was the last time you had an original thought? Meaning, it shouldn’t be something you heard from a podcast, Instagram, or even ChatGPT. I’ve been itching to ask this question since coming back from maternity leave. And even when I sat down to write this, I caught myself scrolling, trying to find more about how to stop doing exactly that. This might be a little different from what we always talk about, but I figured it's something we can all have a conversation about. Let's dive in!