Show Notes
"If I haven’t found a partner yet, it must be my fault." This week, we dispel that notion once and for all, thanks to my friend and fellow artist, Marissa Flaxbart, who joins us to talk about being single as a hopeless AND hopeful romantic, and her fears and discomfort associated with online dating. We return to our fumbling teenage selves and bond over our shared love of teen drama, and how much we think about romance and even how much we think about thinking about romance.
We're inspired not to settle by a postcard from Marissa's mom. We wonder after the damage done by How I Met Your Mother and reflect on the new Westside Story. Marissa questions her instincts -- are they reasons or excuses? -- and wonders how far out of her comfort zone she can go before it's an act of self-betrayal.
We discuss "having a boyfriend for boyfriend's sake" and the prejudiced perspectives on singlehood in our society. We discover how little we know about the reality of other people’s romantic lives. Marissa is brave enough to read emotional passages from her diary and her play A Mere Conception, which is now a feature film called The Mirror Game arriving on April 1st.
Marissa realizes that she's looking for something special, something rare, and that's why she hasn't found it yet, not due to any faults of her own.
For more Marissa:
Listen to the Soundtrack to Marissa's Life.
Buy tickets to see The Mirror Game, Marissa's forthcoming movie about two old friends and single-dom.
Subscribe to Marissa's free weekly publication, Metaforia.
Enroll in Sweet Valley High and listen to Marissa's podcast, Sweet Valley Diaries
Follow along with Marissa's Wallpaper Wednesdays on her IG.
References:
KCRW's Life Examined - "Why good listening matters"
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