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Build the confidence to take direct action in conversations, dating, and real life: https://bit.ly/009-26-DDvsReacherMost men think attraction works like this: become successful, get in shape, build status, then wait for women to notice. But that fantasy keeps a lot of men stuck. In this video, you’ll learn the difference between indirect attraction and direct action, using Jack Reacher and Matt Murdock as examples.You’ll see the attraction signals most men miss, how to flirt without being awkward, and why what you want is usually on the other side of fear. This isn’t just about dating. It’s about the same pattern that keeps men from starting the business, writing the book, making the move, or going after the life they actually want.0:00 - Intro0:29 - The Fantasy Holding Men Back1:34 - Indirect Attraction vs Direct Action2:47 - The Signals Most Men Miss4:02 - The 12 Stages of Intimacy6:00 - Why Reacher Gets Stuck7:00 - The Right Way to Flirt10:25 - Build the confidence to take direct actionSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommand Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Make People Like You - Bruce Lee Charisma BreakdownGet the 4 emotions you need to make a great first impression every time: http://bit.ly/2nN0H2CPeople like people who are like them. When you enter into a state of feeling that "sameness" with someone, you've entered into rapport.That's the short answer of how to get people to like you. In practice, there are many small things you can do to enter into rapport with someone. From smiling genuinely, to nodding while they speak, to focusing first on agreements. Bruce Lee's charisma demonstrates a number of these traits and I break 'em all down in this video so that you learn exactly how to make people like you. Use these charisma tips in your own life to make friends quickly and connect with the people you'd like to get to know.Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I get a lot of questions about the steps to take to be more charismatic. And this one always surprises people: STOP DRINKING! https://goo.gl/RyWH6VIt seems like improvement is something you do between the gym and work. But the truth is, every social interaction is a chance to learn something. Except when you're drunk, that goes out the window. Rather than dealing with social anxiety, we tend to numb it. Rather than learning how to "turn on" a raucous sense of humor, we rely on alcohol do free up spontaneity. We sacrifice self-improvement for the the quick fix of a drunk buzz.So I know it may seem unrelated, but stopping your habit of drinking is one of the fastest ways to boost your charisma. Plus there's a lot of other benefits of not drinking that you get to enjoy as well, like waking up without a splitting headache :-)Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The fastest way I know to become a better communicator, storyteller, and leader:https://bit.ly/006-26-FordMost people think great speeches are about confidence, natural talent, or finding the perfect words. But if you study the speeches people remember for years, from Harrison Ford to Steve Jobs, they all follow the same underlying structure. In this video, you'll learn a simple five-step framework for giving speeches that capture attention, connect emotionally, and leave people thinking differently, whether you're giving a wedding toast, leading a team, interviewing for a job, or getting called up to speak with zero preparation.0:00 - Intro1:12 - F: Start with humor2:52 - A: Acknowledgements3:41 - R: Relate to the audience7:02 - T: The Takeaway9:13 - S: Your signoff10:00 - Improve your confidence & charismaSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandCredits:Written by Charlie HoupertEdited by Sousa MarãesDirected by Andre Ringkjeob Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Link to tip to strengthen your frame & build confidence:https://goo.gl/y2CvdQGame of Thrones: How Power Really WorksGame of Thrones is all about power games. What many people don't realize is that behind those power games are clashes of the way people see the world. There are clashes of frames. The people who can control these frames (like Tyrion Lannister and Tywin Lannister) tend to win over the Game of Thrones people who struggle more often (like Robb Stark).There are tons of ways you can use this understanding of frames in your normal life. We'll look at three in this videoNote: the spoilers go up only through season 4, so if you haven't seen all the way to season 6, you are still good to watch1) Breaking frames for persuasion (Tyrion vs. Shagga)2) Frames in insults (Tyrion vs Robb Stark and Robb Stark vs. Jaime Lannister)3) Frames to create options (Tyrion vs. Tywin and Tyrion vs. Lysa Arryn)Let me know how you feel about these fictional breakdowns! I have never done one in the past and would love your feedback. Especially let me know if you like Game of Thrones related breakdowns, because there is a lot more I could potentially cover (like Tyrion's charisma and persuasive abilities)Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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